When Boy Moms™ Don’t Go To Therapy, We All Suffer
A look at how Anna Saccone's seemingly unchecked self esteem issues manifests in her parenting
I can’t lie, I love Boy Moms™. I think the psychology and sociology behind why they’re like that is fascinating.
Anyway, here’s one of the flock: Anna Saccone. She is a stay-at-home mom of four from Baltimore, but she may live in the UK now, I don't know. And I could deep deeper I suppose but I’m not a journalist, I’m high, and I kinda just don’t give a shit. And you’re probably the same.
Anyway.
Anna made a TikTok a couple of years back that is sort of a classic in the Boy Mom scene. I will provide the transcript and the video below:
I never thought that I would be that toxic boy mom. I love my four kids equally, but that last little boy just hits different. And now I feel like I’m having this existential crisis. Or I wouldn’t be that mom, that toxic boy mom. He hits his sisters, he punches them. I’m like, maybe he’s having a hard day. So when I think about my daughters getting married, I get excited, right? Think about their dresses, planning their weddings. When I think about my son’s wedding, I want to cry. Boy moms, we’ve got to step up. We’ve got to realize that we are the problem.
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Let’s break this down.
“I love my four kids equally, but that last little boy just hits different.” Bitch, no way you watched that back after recording and deadass thought “Yup, nothing contradicts anything here”.
“He hits his sisters, he punches them. I’m like, maybe he’s having a hard day.” Are you trying to raise a future domestic abuser, wtf??!! Also, again, cannot believe she did not watch the video back and think “Damn, that sounds messed up, maybe I should delete this and reflect on myself”.
“When I think about my son’s wedding, I want to cry.” This sentence immediately painted this woman very clearly to me. I’ll bet she has cripplingly low self-esteem, does not have a satisfying marriage, and is now looking to her son to give her the male attention that she needs to feel validated. And the idea of eventually losing that to another woman is what is making her cry.
And indeed, in looking through her profile, Anna shares videos chronicling eating disorders that she battled when she was younger. I am very sympathetic to people with low self-esteem. We’ve all been there at one point to some degree. But when the degree is extreme and is now causing your daughters to be assaulted in their home, it’s time to wake TF up and intervene with yourself and your parenting.
This is why you all have to go to therapy, journal, smoke some weed, and reflect inward. If you don’t, the behaviors that will grow out of whatever your thing is will be deeply hurtful to you and those around you.
This woman hasn’t dealt with her self-esteem issues. Now she’s emaciated - not skinny, and it’s important we distinguish for the sake of public health. On top of that, her daughters are being physically abused in their home by their brother. Plus, the several mommy issues her son is going to have and the effects it will have on the women he goes on to date. I think it is critically important to point out to people when a content creator is dealing with some kind of mental health issue. Too many people get brainrot from looking at these people, aspiring to be someone who is mentally ill. Look, she doesn’t have a public diagnosis that I’m aware of, and I’m not a therapist. But anyone who craves attention the way family vloggers do - and as Anna does - is not okay IMO. Prayers for her mental well-being; she needs to log off and talk to someone.
Also, in Googling her, she and her husband, Jonathan Joly, are apparently infamous for their questionable upbringing of their children. It seems like they have a toxic family vlogger situation going on. I also feel validated to find that I’m not the only one who gets CREEP vibes from Jonathan.
Also, I’m not saying that he had a hair transplant, but I am saying that it looks like he had a hair transplant in the photo below:
If this post reads harshly, that’s because I think it’s okay to be a little mean to anyone who prioritizes attention and money over their children’s privacy and well-being. The best way to correct bad behavior is to create an unwanted reaction. This Anna lady is probably going to end up with a fractured parent-child relationship. And I also just don’t trust the parenting of anyone who prioritizes social media over their children. And sure enough, we have this woman, ON CAMERA, admitting that she’s dismissive of her son’s violence against his sisters. That is crazy.
Anyway.
Live, laugh, love, go to therapy,
-J